Wednesday, November 29, 2006

Secrets

Secrets in general are a good thing, I suppose. For example if you're planning a surprise party for someone, then you should not go tell them that you are, because then it wouldn't be a surprise. lol Obviously.

Or another example would be telling your best friend who you like, or what you like, or how you feel. It's a secret between you and your best friend - and that secret makes you stronger in the end, because you learn to trust eachother, and also it's good because after all, it's not good to keep things bottled up inside you, you've got to tell at least one person.. right?
But sometimes I think secrets are misused.

Like when you're hanging out with a group of friends and all of the sudden two or three of the people in the group start quietly talking about something with eachother. In other words it's a secret they can't share with the other people in the group. In that case, the friends that don't know the secret feel left out. And I know from personal experience, being the odd one out is a horrible feeling.

Secrets are meant to be just that. Secrets. So don't talk about them when people that can't know are around. Talk about them in private... when everybody in the room knows what is being shared.

Sometimes I feel like the word secret is contradicting itself. Like when people flaunt that they've got a secret, but they won't share it with you? Why are they talking about it then, if they don't want anybody to know? Sometimes I wonder if they're doing that because they want you to know... but ... I'm not sure, that doesn't make sense.

Maybe I'm all wrong on this....

I just know that if there's a secret out there that you can't share.. then don't talk about it. Because It's a secret.

se.cret 'sE-kr&t' (adjective) 1. hidden, 2. closemouthed, 3. undercover,
lets try and keep it that way...
that's all

16 comments:

your secret admirer said...

haha i really liked that post kirstyn! it was really good!!

i think sometimes people start whispering and stuff is because it makes them feel better that they know something that no body else does. which is not why there should be secrets "to know something else that no body else does". i don't think that's why secrets should be shared.

but yeah.. definitely good things was said in this post. love you kirstyn!

jkoukla said...

yeah i agree. it's a huge problem with our school especially! secrets are meant to be, well like you said, SECRET!:P the meaning is being destroyed! or misused..ahhh! it's always nice to have that one person you can tell anything too, and trust them with your life. and yes, the odd one out definitely is horrible. very uncomfortable.
i dont think you're all wrong!
;)-jackie

Anonymous said...

the only problem is, if the other person can't keep it bottled up inside, what makes you any stronger against that bottle bursting potential?

(kirstyn) said...

hey good question john...
but you see. if two people know the secret... then it's good because you can talk about with eachother... therefore not keeping anything bottled up. because you have eachother to talk about it.. therefore no more bottle . lol
K

jkoukla said...

hehe kirstyn ur so cute

Anonymous said...

but you can't tell anyone else. and if it's a really big secret, than that bottle almost gets smaller and smaller until you almost just have to burst. or at least, that's how i see it.

Anonymous said...

woah. your definitely not all wrong on this.
closemouthed. i didn't know that was a word. pretty sweet!
i agree! dont bring up the point that you have a secret if you don't plan on sharing. but ya, as kathleen said..sometimes it just makes people feel better that your part of the whole...secret business, anyways, well said here!

(kirstyn) said...

hmm. interesting.. well it works for me to just tell one or two people that i really trust, and those people have never broken my trust... so. it works for me. anyways.. have a good night
K

Anonymous said...

i like secrets. speaking of secrets.............

(kirstyn) said...

lol.. tara.. you will never let me live that down until i tell you eh?? well you're gonna have to try harder than that hehe (evil laugh)
K

Anonymous said...

i love this post! It's all so true. Also when people say "it's an inside joke...you wouldn't get it"...that bugs me. But I'm positive I've done it a few times before, which isn't good.

When I have a secret though...if it's a good one (not gossip or anything) I definitely want to share it with my friends.

speaking of secrets...? what's all this kirstyn? :p

(kirstyn) said...

hehe. (evil laugh once more) mwhaa
K
p.s. thanks elena

your secret admirer said...

but the thing about inside jokes is... sometimes no one will understand them. that's just the thing.. people think you're crazy. but then again, i've definitely been on the receiving end of that line and it sucks. so it's both. but you can try to explain and let people think you're crazy anyhow.

i had an amazing time with you last night. i wonder how much people heard on the bus though when we were talking? considering i never talk on the bus...

and john... you just have to tell the right person and know what person to tell. if you tell the right person then nothing can go wrong. there are trustworthy people... (like me! tell me your secrets john! haha!).

(kirstyn) said...

haha.. yea I had an amazing time too kath. hmm. i don't think people were too interested with our talk on the bus haha.. well hope not ;)
K

Joel said...

hey kirstyn.
sweet post. i obviously dont know any of these ppl and u guys have all ur ssecrets and i feel left out. lol. kiddin. but like... someone was saying, about inside jokes and stuff, i love inside jokes, im just too lazy to share it with other ppl cuz its such a long story. thats my excuse. what u said about if ur gonna tell secrets, tell thatm when other ppl arent around. i totally agree with that but isnt that like gossiping. i dunno just askin.
k cu l8er
joel

(kirstyn) said...

hey joel ! it finally worked eh?? umm yea i suppose it could be gossiping...but i'm thinking on more of the lines of like your own secret. and if you're talking about yourself.. it's not gossiping.. hmm
don't worry that you don't know the other ppl haha.. youth group ppl rock too :D
K